Rose Quartz and the Importance of Self- Love

It is true, “All is fair in love in war.” However, through all of the strategies to entice our first love into that first kiss or sheer panic of wondering whether they will return to us after a break-up, we get so caught up in the games that they we lose sight something so incredibly precious and vital to winning the game of love: ourselves.

During the honeymoon phase of the relationship we spent our days absorbed obsessed with our new beaus. We stop writing our own unique life stories that were going on before these lovers entered the picture.

If you really want to him or her to return, here is my honest advice to you: put the phone away and stop sending him the texts about how you are soul mates that are fated to be. Also, close the browser to your Gmail account that has the email that begs him or her to return. Take a few deep breaths and instead start to write an alternative ending. Rather than focusing on them and their return to your life, take all the love, devotion, and passion that you have for them and return it back to you.

You do not have to enter this battle alone. One way I personally won the battle, was enlisting my trusty rose quartz.

Rose quartz the stone of unconditional love, it opens the heart chakra. While it has the capability to manifest love in all forms, it serves a higher purpose. Rose quartz provides its owner a sense of inner peace and self-love. It gives them the courage to heal and begin to feel okay to walk in their own shoes as a single girl at 32. While meditating with rose quartz, one also begins to realize that in order to truly bring in true love in you must at first have love at your home base, and that is within.

It does take time to heal from that first bad break-up. However, rose quartz when used properly, help realign your mind and soul. It helps you to understand that you need to always love yourself first and to never ever lose yourself in a relationship. To lose yourself in another is one’s ultimate demise and peril.

So rather than writing those texts to my former lover, instead write new stories about your amazing authentic and incredible you.

-Lucy Tambara